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10 Tips for Surviving Divorce and Separation
By Shellee Moore MFT
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Going through a separation or divorce is one of the most traumatic events a person can experience in a lifetime. Here are twelve steps to survival:
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Manage your emotions - Stop the turmoil by using stress management techniques. Move from feelings to rational thinking. |
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Avoid making life altering decisions - Until you are thinking more clearly, put off plans to relocate or change jobs. |
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Reassure your kids - Your family life will continue, but in a different way. Go to the bookstore or library to find age appropriate books to explain separation and divorce to children. |
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Are you acting in the best interest of your child? Ask yourself this question. Keep arrangements as simple as possible and don't put kids in the middle. |
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Make a schedule - Make a list and target dates to help you feel more in control and less stressed. Delegate as much as possible. |
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Ask for help - Your family and friends will help if they know how. Be specific about how they can help. If you need professional help -- get it. Sometimes it's just too hard to get through this by yourself. |
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Be realistic - It's important to have realistic expectations and not to expect too much from yourself and everyone else when you are feeling so bad. |
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Take care of yourself - Get adequate sleep, eat healthy and exercise. Give yourself a break - you deserve it. Be protective of your need for solitude. |
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One day at a time - It gets easier. It gets better and hurts less as time passes. Spend time with others who understand what you're going through. |
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Grieve the loss - Separation and divorce is devastating. It takes time to recover. Allow yourself to grieve. |
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Shellee Moore, M.F.T.
20 Corporate Park, Suite 215
Irvine, CA 92606
(949)261-8299
shellee@thesolutiontherapist.com
www.thesolutiontherapist.com
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